I have a sweet spot for facilitating groups to do any kind of work—strategy, visioning, daily business, new product development, planning—you name it. I love to be in the thick of it—helping leaders, groups, teams, boards, or collectives get better results than they think is possible.
Recently a group brought me in to facilitate a series of meetings. The group's committed, well-intentioned, and sincere. They come together to support the well-being of the organization and they will do what it takes to ensure things go well. There are no hidden agendas or surprising power plays. It doesn't get much better than that.
The Elephant Landed in the Middle of the Room
Well, almost. At the last meeting, there was a big fat elephant in the room that showed up unexpectedly and it took over the energy in the room, filling it with tension for a bit. It was a perfect example of an amygdala hijack. What is that? You might ask. Let me explain how it showed up then I'll explain what I know about the science. And please remember I'm an amateur who's just really interested in brain science.
The elephant plopped in the middle of the room when someone asked the general manager—or GM—a question. It was a request for more information about staffing and operations. The GM snapped, “Operations are not your responsibility. They are my responsibility. You don't need to know what is going on. That's my job.”
“Every time I ask about it, you freak out,” the questioner muttered. The elephant started flapping his ears at this point.